Matters of the heart are often the hardest things to work through. For many people being single is a challenge that often causes a lot of heartaches. Being around other singles in Boston can often help alleviate the feelings of loneliness and self-doubt that often accompany single people. Many people need to learn how to appreciate being single and overcome the challenges it presents before they can move on to successful relationships.
Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt
One of the most challenging things to overcome as a single person is the feeling of not being good enough for someone else to love. This self-doubt often sabotages relationships that could have worked out. Many people often feel despair after a relationship turns sour which leads to feelings of unworthiness or unlovability. It is not healthy to continue in a pattern of self-deprecation and loathing. So before embarking on a new relationship many people need to learn how to love themselves and see themselves as worthy of being loved, respected and appreciated.
Learning to Trust Ourselves
When a relationship turns sour many people want to understand why things went wrong and if they did something to ruin the romance. This is especially true for women who typically see themselves as the relationship experts and are often the ones who spend the most time and effort trying to make the relationship work. When relationships fail, many women spend a considerable amount of time questioning every aspect of the situation to try and determine what went wrong.
They very often blame themselves, even subconsciously and may feel that they are too old or too overweight or too emotionally needy. This can lead to isolating behaviors that can cause even more problems in the long run such as not speaking up when something is bothering them in a relationship, not going out with friends anymore (after all, what’s the point?) or even putting up with abusive behavior because they feel like they can’t do any better. This is not a place that anyone should be in.
Have Fun While You Look For Love
One of the best ways to enjoy your time as a single person and not let feelings of unworthiness overcome you is not to take everything personally and realize that some relationships simply don’t work out and that you are not to blame for everything that goes wrong. Spend time doing things you like with other singles in Boston as a group and wait to pair off until it feels right for you.
